Hello my good people. Hope you are all well. Now, as I have mentioned before in previous articles, I am a wife and I am also a mom. My daughter is 4 years old. So last night, I let her watch just a little more cartoons because you know..refer to my previous post HERE. Besides the next day was a weekend. After the last cartoon was done, I kindly tell her “That’s enough for today, sweets. Come we say our prayers and go to bed.” And my daughter, crosses her arms and yells “No, mommy!” I gasped! I was horrified! Tears filled my eyes as I turned to my husband. And so it has began. It goes from “No” to a whole bunch of other statements that I don’t want to hear. My fears unveiling before my very eyes. I was not a bad or mischievous kid growing up, but there are some things I used to tell my mom that I am not so sure I EVER want to her from my baby!I was going crazy, I had to make a list
#1 I will be right back/I won’t be late
Honestly speaking, this is what I used tell my mum just out of habit. 99% of the time it was a major lie. I just had other things to do all the time. And to save myself from my mother’s lashing I used to just tell her what she wanted to hear. I gave her hope. The bad thing is that I never really even made the effort to be on time. I didn’t consider any other persons time and plans but my own. I feel so terrible now. I never want to hear this sentence from my daughter. Just in case that she will be telling white lies just like I had.
# 2 He is just a friend
Oh was he now? Oh dear! I have only ever been caught 3 times with a boy (all friendly scenes btw) and all the time when my mum used to ask, who is this? I used to tell her that “He is just a friend”. All three times, it was my little boyfriend of the time. Why I never really told my mother the truth, I don’t really know. Perhaps she believed that you are only allowed to date when you turn 21. As a mom, I actually think I might bump that up to 25! Every time my daughter would tell me this I think my heart will skip a bit.
#3 You are so unfair sometimes
Child, mother knows best, take this from Rapunzel’s stepmother (check her song Here) . Good mothers always have the best interest for you. I used to use this reply when my mother made decisions for my benefit. And she just did what any parent would do; set a lame curfew; get rid of clothes that showed too much skin; refused some of my friends because they were genuinely bad influences. If or rather when my daughter starts using this line to me it will literally be breaking my heart because everything I do is for her best.
#4 I am grown up now/ I am not a baby anymore
I used to use this when every time I wanted to experience something new and my mum refused. Or when she gave me advice that I thought at the time I didn’t really need. The truth is, you will always be you mother’s baby. She will always feel the need to protect you and to make sure you make all the right choices. It all comes from a good place. I’m counting down till I hear this one from my daughter. I am not looking forward to it because I know it will hurt like a dagger through the heart.
#5 I don’t care
Oh but I did. I just used to say it because……actually I don’t know why I used to say this. Whether it was school, whether it was going to visit family or anything for that matter. I shudder just at the thought of my daughter ever saying this sentence. I wish she will always have passion and just put much care into everything she does.
Like I said in the beginning, I was never a terrible kid. Just sometimes as a kid I would just act up for no reason at all. I really wish I could take back even those few times I said such things to my mum and my dad. But you know how karma is, I have been blessed with a daughter of my own. And she is growing up so fast, too fast for my liking actually. And here I am dreading those five things above. I just wish that I will always have the patience and the ever lasting love that my mummy had for me.
June 8, 2017 at 9:05 am
Haha! I think a lot of us said even worse things to our mothers. I remember telling mine l must have been adopted because she was so mean :-). Good luck ;-).
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June 8, 2017 at 11:01 am
haha, I know, there are times when i believed that too. Thanks for the luck, I hope i won’t be needing it too much 😉
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June 8, 2017 at 9:25 am
Eeeeh! Yea.. I guess I’ll expect the same. But is a circle… it might happen. Clearly you are a lovely daughter… your mum is lucky to have you. Everyone does the 5 things you said. 🤗🤗
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June 8, 2017 at 12:05 pm
Awww thank you. Like you said, this is the cycle of life.
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June 8, 2017 at 10:48 am
What goes around comes around it seems :), but if you can change your approach with your daughter, she may not say all of this, atleast you can hope for that 🙂
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June 8, 2017 at 12:23 pm
I would prefer the good things to come back around and the bad to just fly out of the orbit 🙂
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June 8, 2017 at 11:14 am
This post is brutually honest.
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June 8, 2017 at 12:32 pm
Thank you! I didn’t think it might come back to me when I was doing it. Now I might have to face the music
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June 8, 2017 at 5:36 pm
Ha ha, thats so true, We’ve said so many things to moms but not wish to hear from our kids!
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June 8, 2017 at 8:12 pm
I get this all the time from my teen already !!!
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June 9, 2017 at 9:07 am
Oh my, when I get to that part I wish I will be able to fast forward a few years. But im sure deep down they really appreciate you and love you so much
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June 14, 2017 at 1:51 pm
I can think of worst things to hear from your child, if that’s all you hear you’re luck 😂
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June 20, 2017 at 7:36 pm
I really hope so too 😀
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June 14, 2017 at 5:04 pm
Oh my goodness! Incredible article! Thank you,
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June 14, 2017 at 5:52 pm
So true. It is all so different now we are parents, we can now walk in our parent’s shoes.
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June 20, 2017 at 7:38 pm
Exactly, I’m always apologising to my parents and telling them I love them. Their shoes are not comfortable at all, and now I know
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June 14, 2017 at 6:04 pm
To be honest, I don’t understand the constant questioning of teenage girls love life and why they feel like they have to tell “he is just a friend”. My mum never asked me the question coz she trusted me and I never had to answer. Altough I understand where this all come from, it is a bit cliché too. xx corinne
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July 3, 2017 at 8:01 am
You are sooo lucky. With a mum like mine, even saying “His just a friend ” earned me an intense side eye. I guess people just have their different ways of parenting 🙂
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June 14, 2017 at 6:20 pm
This is such an adorable and sweet post. I was all the time smiling while reading this. Each point is so real and connected. This proves that we understand our parents only when we ourselves step into their shoes.
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June 20, 2017 at 7:39 pm
Thank you sooo much. Yes, it makes us feel like making it up to them every single day.
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June 14, 2017 at 7:17 pm
I agree with all of these! Parenting is hard and I definitely wouldn’t want to hear these phrases from my kids, but it would be understandable because I used to tell my mom these things all of the time!
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June 20, 2017 at 7:40 pm
Hahaha we are all dreading karma hey. It’s time walk in their shoes…
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June 14, 2017 at 7:42 pm
Ha ha I said these and a few more worse things as well.
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June 14, 2017 at 8:06 pm
I love your honesty in this post. I’m pretty sure we have all said things like this to our mothers and I am sure you are an amazing mom!
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July 3, 2017 at 8:02 am
Thank you! 🙂 I definitely see that now.
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June 14, 2017 at 8:50 pm
Hahahaha! I guess I’ll expect the same one day! Great post!
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June 14, 2017 at 10:08 pm
I think we all say these phrases. It’s part of growing up. Thanks for sharing!
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June 14, 2017 at 10:33 pm
I am not a parent, but I think there is nothing we can do to avoid to do mistakes with children, there is not any book how to grow up them. We can use just passion, love, dedication, and logic sometimes.
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July 3, 2017 at 8:05 am
You said it :). Everyone has their own guide, it we all have passion, love, dedication and logic as the common theme.
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June 14, 2017 at 11:42 pm
Oh yes, I’m the same way. I hope my daughter doesn’t say these things either. I remember saying a lot of these…the “I don’t care” quite often.
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June 15, 2017 at 12:07 am
This is so sweet !! yes we never realise unless we face the same situation !! I do some of these things and never want my son to do
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June 15, 2017 at 3:01 am
This list is so accurate! I don’t have any kids myself but all of these little “white lies” are the same things that I use to tell my parents! I think if I was a parent I also would not want my kid to be saying these things because deep down we all know the truth.
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June 15, 2017 at 8:47 am
We all make mistakes that we want for our children not to do with us. Sometimes we can make that happen but sometimes we can’t. You just have to be the best Mum you can to your little girl and don’t let your fears for something that hasn’t even happened take over you. Love her, raise her right. That’s all you can do.
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July 3, 2017 at 8:07 am
Aww thank you so much. Yes, we can only do the best we can.
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June 15, 2017 at 3:28 pm
I think this is a really good post and made me think of “What my mom used to say to me and I never want to say to my daughter (if I have one)”. A different point of view but I think what we get comes from what we give.
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June 15, 2017 at 6:46 pm
HA! This is hilarious (and scary!) at the same time! I have definitely said those things once or twice in the past! I would also be mortified if I heard them also!
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June 15, 2017 at 7:38 pm
Well kids, like the rest of us, are imperfect. If it’s not these exact statements, I’m sure your child will have her moments just like you had yours. At least now you can understand that she won’t really mean them one day much like you didn’t.
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June 15, 2017 at 9:38 pm
I would shudder at some of the things I used to say to my Mom as well. I guess when you are young you just do not think of these things and the feelings you are hurting. Now I remind my Mom all the time how awesoem she is and how I couldn’t live without her!
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July 3, 2017 at 8:57 am
Its funny how the love and appreciation comes way way later in life. We should be thankful that we can do so before its too late.
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June 15, 2017 at 11:21 pm
I can relate! Hahah, great post!
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July 3, 2017 at 8:57 am
hahaha, thank you.
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June 16, 2017 at 4:11 am
That’s why we should develop trust with our children. So that could be completely honest with us.
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June 16, 2017 at 5:39 am
This is so true. We, later on, end up regretting so many things that we shouldn’t have done.
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July 3, 2017 at 8:58 am
We really do, i guess its the circle of life and life’s lessons
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June 16, 2017 at 12:38 pm
This is so on point. I used to tell my mom those things and now that I am a mom myself, I also wish my child doesn’t do bad things behind my back just like I did with my mom :(((
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June 16, 2017 at 8:55 pm
Love this post and your blog!
Keep sharing with us. 🙂
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July 3, 2017 at 1:15 pm
Thank you so much
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June 16, 2017 at 10:15 pm
This is such a good read! I guess it’s never easy to be a mom. Now that I’m a mom myself, I can see what my mom gone through raising me.
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July 3, 2017 at 1:17 pm
Yes indeed, and that is why we need to really appreciate them once we are all grown up
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June 17, 2017 at 1:02 am
I ❤ this! So many things we never think about until we have our own!
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July 3, 2017 at 1:18 pm
Thank you so much. I know, we only learn when we wear the shoes
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June 17, 2017 at 3:19 am
Been there done that 🙂 My daughter and son who are young adults still say those things.
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July 3, 2017 at 1:21 pm
Hahaha, nooo, don’t tell me it lasts that long! 🙂
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June 17, 2017 at 3:04 pm
It’s part and parcel of growing up and asserting some modicum of independence.
My American born children are far more vocal than I was with my mother. Different generation and location, equals different outcomes.
Let her be and this too will pass eventually.
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July 3, 2017 at 1:23 pm
Indeed, generations differ. and definitely our kids will have louder voices than we ever did. Like you said. I hope to have the patience like my mummy had
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May 28, 2018 at 9:36 am
…Now I hear…
Mom, with this slack economy, it looks like I will NEVER leave home!
Thank God, I will have my goodness personified with me.
Or at least, I know her kids will be with me.
…As for my son, he has just discovered girls…Scary!
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July 14, 2021 at 3:33 pm
Hahaha. Oh well, I wouldn’t want my sons telling these to me, too, when they grow up.
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July 14, 2021 at 5:52 pm
Great post, as we get older it really is crazy to think back on some of the things we said or did and wonder why we did them at the time.
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July 15, 2021 at 3:10 am
This is so true, somehow I can relate. I regret saying all mean things to my mom when I was a teen. I have no kids yet but I guess I need to be a good mom someday haha
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July 15, 2021 at 3:28 am
That’s extremely true that most people can’t turn the table and think about what they did as a daughter when they become a mother, this post is a painful reminder and relevation of that 🙂
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July 15, 2021 at 4:41 am
It’s so easy for us to say these words, but to a mother these may sting. But yeah it’s kinda part of growing up and kinda makes us work on how we can have a better relationship with the parents
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July 15, 2021 at 8:13 am
Definitely, i have a preteen and already seeing the signs. I am just bracing for impact lol
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July 15, 2021 at 8:40 am
As a father to two daughters myself I can relate to this! I am finding the transition of them growing up and wanting more freedom a little tricky to take lol! But, we have to let them go at some stage…. thanks, great post.
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July 15, 2021 at 10:27 am
It is tricky, need I say my parents are having a blast, karma lol
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July 15, 2021 at 11:58 am
Agree to this! As a father of a 20 year old daughter and 23 year old son, sometimes I hear myself to either of them and remember how I am with my parents but these are good ones to remember 🙂
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July 15, 2021 at 1:17 pm
It breaks my heart when I hear my stepdaughter talk the way I used to talk growing up. All the negativity. When I talk to her and explain I know how she feels because I went through the same thing. But to her its NOT the same thing. I know when she says she doesn’t care… she does care. A LOT and I just don’t know how to convince her things do get better.
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July 15, 2021 at 1:28 pm
It is so difficult sometimes, but i always end it with an ‘I love you’. You will both be joking about these days in the near future when she knows better.
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July 15, 2021 at 2:48 pm
It happened with me too I always used to say all that to my mother too.
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July 15, 2021 at 9:46 pm
Hahaha I feel like we all had part of this and later when we grow older, we laugh at ourselves for doing that lol
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July 16, 2021 at 8:50 am
It’s part of growing up.every child has said these things to his or her parents. It’s only when we grow up that we realise we were unfair to our parents.
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July 19, 2021 at 7:16 am
I am so anxious with my daughter right now. Karma ….. smh lol
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July 16, 2021 at 11:02 am
Great headline! It’s not only the telling, it’s also the acting 😉 I’m very grateful that my daughter is not like I used to be….
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July 19, 2021 at 7:18 am
The acting! The slamming of the doors and everything. My mom always laughs at me when my kid has a moment lol
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