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‘Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend’

∼ Martin Luther King, Jr.

HOW TO: Survive Valentine’s Day…..when you are single


Hi my lovies! Hope you guys are good, hope you guys are all well. Happy New Year’s to you! I hope you have all your New Year’s Resolutions sorted and you are starting the year with the right banging attitude and positivism. I know I am! Speaking of which, this here month of February is what you may call a dreaded month for some single people out there. And we all know why. It’s all about the Valentine’s Day jazz and all. I remember when this day came around when I was single, I used to want to hide under my bed for the whole day. But now that I am not single, honestly, I couldn’t care less about it. *sigh* Funny how times change. Buuuuut, for my awesome single people out there, here are some things I used to do to avoid that “I’m lonely” limbo…..



Music is what kept me company the whole day. Yes, music is your friend. And you can be into Hip Hop, R ‘n’ B, Rap, Gospel, Jazz, Reggae, Raggae or whatever is in between, just pile up some awesome tunes and sing to your soul’s content. Sometimes it’s all about the artist, if it’s Bey or John Legend or Taylor Swift, you can have a day with them. Music is really my medicine. When I feel sad, angry or disappointed, I let the artists and songs talk to me. Music pushes my reset button. So on Valentines Day, I will have my headphones blaring to my favorite jams like Will Smith’s Switch, and a whole lot of Jennifer Lopez, don’t forget tonnes of TLC! I would not even care about acting the fool in public. Every one is jolly anyway, and others might even join in my singing.


Yes, because we all know that this is where they go. Him, her and the third! Unless you want to treat yourself to a posh dinner, do not go anywhere near a restaurant. These are the cliche places that ALL couples will be.  You would rather just order your favorite food and just have a cozy night in or hang with other single friends at the beach or at the park or something. But definitely NO restaurants.


Everyone usually has something that they have always wanted to do but have never made time for it. And it’s always usually marred with excuse after excuse. Well now is your time. This Valentine’s Day, you have to quench your heart’s adventure desire. For instance, I have always wanted to take a cooking class with one of our chefs in the city I live in and my sister has always wanted to try out Rollerblading. You might want to go salsa dancing; take a pottery class; visit your local art museum, you name it. It will just be some time for yourself and you will for sure have fun. Plus, it’s one item you will tick off your Bucket List.


Family will always be happy to see you. Even if you visit them every single weekend. I love my family! I would like to think most people love theirs too. Home is a place where you will get free hugs and kisses, goofy conversations and some free food :-). You do not have to dress up or anything, you are fine just the way you are. If you wish, you can just buy small presents for them. Maybe a box of chocolates or show up with a bouquet of flowers. And speaking of flowers…..


Who doesn’t love a fresh bouquet of their favorite flowers? I am talking about roses, lilies (I LOVE me some lilies wooo!), tulips, marigold and all. And if the florist asks you if you want it with a card, you will tell them yes, yes you want a card. And when they ask you what you want to write on the card? Tell them ‘U R Awesome’! Every time you open that card…..well there you go!


This is not going to be a day to cry and feel envious of movie characters. Put that “When Harry met Sally” DVD back down and walk away. And don’t you dare turn to “Notting Hill”, “The Notebook”, “10 Things I Hate About You”. NOOO! Not today. Today we are going to other genres. Comedy, for example, is a good place to start. Everyone enjoys a good laugh. They are the best, and like me, do not be afraid to literally laugh out loud. There are so many great comedies out there and they will be perfect for you. Or if you are like me, and you enjoy scaring yourself then Horror it is. Yeah, sometimes I scare myself just a little bit too much and sleep with the lights on for days. And a baseball bat by my bed. Now, what ghost can I hit with a bat? *smh*


If you have a pet dog or cat then you have the best cuddle buddies! They are cute and warm…and loyal. Well..most are. But if you have other types of pets you know, like snakes, a mouse, spider and you can cuddle them, then good for you, boo. Well for some of us that are unfortunately allergic to furry friends we have cute alternatives as well. Teddy bears!!! You can hug on one tight as you watch your non-romantic movie while sipping on some wine in your cozy fresh flowers smelling home. You can use them as a pillow too.  HOWEVER, please do not attempt to talk to this stuffed toy. Then you will come from being single…to being single and crae crae (Crazy). So, a pet, a teddy, whatever suits you best as long as you don’t have your arms crossed over your chest. If all fails, your favorite softest blanket can work.

single and proud

So there it is-my list of what I would do as a single person. I just really want you guys to remember that self-love comes before loving other people. And rarely do we remember to show love to ourselves. Even if you have someone, it’s not a sin to do something for yourself too this Valentine’s day. Well, that’s just me and what I think.

Wishing you all much love xoxo.



Are You A Mama’s Boy?

mama boyHey everyone! What’s good? Now I have been gone for a minute, haven’t I? Well I guess life took over for a bit, but now I am back! Actually I am from a short holiday. We went to visit my in-laws for a bit. And as an African bride (daughter-in-law) I obviously didn’t so much enjoy the holiday. It is tradition that you take over the cooking in the kitchen; you take over the cleaning of the house; the laundry of the family etc. It is mandatory that you prove that your parents raised you right *sigh*. So one night, I was actually complaining to my husband that this was not the way I planned to spend my leave time away from office. We needed to go back home as soon as possible. And I was more than ready to come up with fake excuses just to leave. My husband, on the other hand, he was convinced to stay and I knew why,mams-boy.jpg! He loves his mother to bits and would do all he can to prolong our stay. I told him so but he didn’t believe me. So we settled it the best way we know how…….a test! And yes, I was right as always.

For all my gentlemen out there, some in denial like my husband, some being mama’s boys and proud. The below test is for you to find out and verify. Please do feel free to come back and tell me you results, and be honest too. Lol. GOOD LUCK 🙂

CLICK HERE to find out just how much of a mummy’s boy you are!





“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.” ∼John Wooden


‘It’s important to know that we can never satisfy each and everyone with the things we do.’

For example

A man was on a journey with his son and their donkey.

  1. When the man chose to let his son ride the donkey, people said the son was disrespectful for letting his father walk
  2. When the man chose to ride the donkey, people said he was being unfair for letting his young son walk.
  3. When they decided to both ride on the donkey, people said they were exhausting the poor animal.
  4. When the man and his son decided to walk instead, people called them idiots for not riding the donkey

∼Never strive to satisfy each and everyone, it’s nearly impossible∼




“Striving for success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven’t planted” ∼ David Bly

5 Things I used to tell my mother…but never want to hear from my daughter…

Hello my good people. Hope you are all well. Now, as I have mentioned before in previous articles, I am a wife and I am also a mom. My daughter is 4 years old. So last night, I let her watch just a little more cartoons because you know..refer to my previous post HERE. Besides the next day was a weekend. After the last cartoon was done, I kindly tell her “That’s enough for today, sweets. Come we say our prayers and go to bed.” And my daughter, crosses her arms and yells “No, mommy!” I gasped! I was horrified! Tears filled my eyes as I turned to my husband. And so it has began. It goes from “No” to a whole bunch of other statements that I don’t want to hear. My fears unveiling before my very eyes. I was not a bad or mischievous kid growing up, but there are some things I used to tell my mom that I am not so sure I EVER want to her from my baby!I was going crazy, I had to make a list

#1 I will be right back/I won’t be late

LateHonestly speaking, this is what I used tell my mum just out of habit. 99% of the time it was a major lie. I just had other things to do all the time. And to save myself from my mother’s lashing I used to just tell her what she wanted to hear. I gave her hope. The bad thing is that I never really even made the effort to be on time. I didn’t consider any other persons time and plans but my own. I feel so terrible now. I never want to hear this sentence from my daughter. Just in case that she will be telling white lies just like I had.

# 2 He is just a friend

his just aOh was he now? Oh dear! I have only ever been caught 3 times with a boy (all friendly scenes btw) and all the time when my mum used to ask, who is this? I used to tell her that “He is just a friend”. All three times, it was my little boyfriend of the time. Why I never really told my mother the truth, I don’t really know. Perhaps she believed that you are only allowed to date when you turn 21. As a mom, I actually think I might bump that up to 25! Every time my daughter would tell me this I think my heart will skip a bit.

#3 You are so unfair sometimes

Child, mother knows best, take this from Rapunzel’s stepmother (check her song Here) . Good mothers always have the best interest for you. I used to use this reply when my mother made decisions for my benefit. And she just did what any parent would do; set a lame curfew; get rid of clothes that showed too much skin; refused some of my friends because they were genuinely bad influences. If or rather when my daughter starts using this line to me it will literally be breaking my heart because everything I do is for her best.

#4 I am grown up now/ I am not a baby anymore

not baby realI used to use this when every time I wanted to experience something new and my mum refused. Or when she gave me advice that I thought at the time I didn’t really need. The truth is, you will always be you mother’s baby. She will always feel the need to protect you and to make sure you make all the right choices. It all comes from a good place. I’m counting down till I hear this one from my daughter. I am not looking forward to it because I know it will hurt like a dagger through the heart.

#5 I don’t care

Oh but I did. I just used to say it because……actually I don’t know why I used to say this. Whether it was school, whether it was going to visit family or anything for that matter. I shudder just at the thought of my daughter ever saying this sentence. I wish she will always have passion and just put much care into everything she does.

Like I said in the beginning, I was never a terrible kid. Just sometimes as a kid I would just act up for no reason at all. I really wish I could take back even those few times I said such things to my mum and my dad. But you know how karma is, I have been blessed with a daughter of my own. And she is growing up so fast, too fast for my liking actually. And here I am dreading those five things above. I just wish that I will always have the patience and the ever lasting love that my mummy had for me.

i love my mum

Things I Learnt from Cartoons!

Hi people. Hope you are all good. Hope you are all well. Today, I would like to take you on a trip down memory lane. I was arguing with my Aunt just last week. She was telling me not to let my daughter watch too much cartoons. My daughter is just 4 years old, what am I suppose to let her watch? The Fate of the Furious? Cartoons paved my childhood, I loved them and still do. Yes, I am a grown woman who still loves watching cartoons occasionally. I went on and pointed out things that children learn from cartoons. I mentioned a whole bunch to her, such as the ones below….


“Heeeey, pretty momma!!”

What could you probably learn from Johnny you ask? Well he was the most confident cartoon I have ever known. He taught me to always believe in myself regardless of what the odds are. He always got up and continued moving no matter how many times he was slapped or punched. Confidence is such an important characteristic in this day and age and I would want my daughter to have that. As I remember, he also taught me to raise that single eyebrow. He was awesome!


This was such a cute cartoon for me. I used to find the obsession with the Juju balls hilarious. I learnt the value and acceptance of culture. Mike was taken to a whole new world, with a different people. Away from everything that she was used to. But she made friends in her new community. She learnt of their ways and their customs and she felt right at home. The world is full of people with different cultures, traditions and beliefs. Each group of people is just as beautiful as the next. Lu and Og were also very accommodating to Mike and accepting her as a friend. Well, maybe Og more than Lu.


Now this little pup was a life saver. He would always save either Muriel or Eustace or both. Yes, you could always see that this dog was scared, and trembled to the core but he would amazingly always sum up the courage to save people. He faced aliens, robots, weird strangers and French Speaking ducks. With courage, we can face and conquer all our fears and all that is holding us back from moving forward. With courage comes the strength that will fuel your journey. Just like how Courage always made it, you can make it too. He proved that its okay to be scared, but as people watch you quiver with fear, let them also watch you take the first step with courage!!


Mummy had a chicken, daddy had a cow! Hahahaha, what are the odds of two perfectly normal human beings having a cow and a chicken for kids? I don’t know, but all I know, all I remember is how happy this family was. Regardless of how cow and chicken were all kinds of different they still cared and loved each other. So we need to know that, siblings and parents may not always compliment each other and we all know that all families have their imperfections. We must just always learn to love our parents and siblings regardless of how different they are from us. Family is life…..cousin Boneless and all.


Yep, this little short nerdy kid taught me to embrace your talent regardless of how other people will look at you. He loved science and had the neck for inventing things. He didn’t care about what DeeDee or anybody else said. So if you are a brother who can cook incredible meals, or a lady that can lift the weight of the world, so be it. Have the confidence to see where your talent can take you. Do not let anyone tell you that it is lame; it is useless or it is nerdy. These are just people and that is what people do. You might never know, deep down they may be jealous of you.


The monsters are always just people. Yes, I paid attention and saw it like it is. Every single time the monster was just a person. A person that has set out to sabotage you. It is a person trying to slow you down or scare you away. Envious people will do anything to see you fail. Trust me people can go to extreme measures. And no, in reality they do not wear costumes or masks. They just smile in your face while they go behind your back and plot against you. That is how people can be heartless sometimes. These monsters are not strangers. They are always people you know and people who know you. Family members, friends, neighbors you name it. They pretend to to care but yet throw daggers at you the moment your back is turned. Learn to read people and try to chose who you associate with wisely.

Well, those are my lessons from a few. I think my baby will be watching cartoons as much as she wishes because I know she is learning.

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